Sooooo….What do I do with my daughters hair!!!!!

 

I often get questions about little girls hair.Well, allow me to be transparent as a mother of little girls,who happens to be a hairstylist who has had a journey of our own.I willingly admit,I am still learning.My journey really begins with my older daughter.She was born with a “head full of hair”(sounding like I’m old and southern,lol)beautiful soft curls ,it was ALOT of hair.We did pretty good until she was about three ,It was still softer hair so I did a lot of accessorizing ,but by four I realize her hair was still the same length. so for the next year I did the best I could with it. mind you , there was NO blow drying, pressing or any heat applied to her hair.not only was it not growing but her ends were very split. I just didnt get it!!!! OK age 5, she cut I chunk of hair off in the front.Now you look a mess!! Is this how we are entering kindergarten?! By now I’m researching,back tracking, praying for a solution.I DID find this website online called “SWEET NATURE by EDDIE” after going through the site with a fine tooth comb, I decided to order the products.LOVED IT!!!!!! and my baby’s hair was soft, and growing!!!  Six months later it reverted back again. Big Sigh! fast forward to six months later I was referred to a hair and skin doctor (not a dermatologist) She was more so an herbalist. and expressed that it was her diet (being exposed once again how much I “DON’T” cook) and suggested all these organic products for her that she sold there plus this special topical solution that she is known for. I bought it all.IT WORKED! I changed my baby’s diet and decided to keep braids in her hair fast forward two years. Her hair looks GREAT!! OMG!! what did I do specifically, lets back track I changed her diet(less fast food) IS NUMBER ONE. #2 I used only organic products on her hair.#3 I kept it in a protective hairstyle (braids) .

Those three easy steps really work.Now I know when dropping off your little girl at school you see all the different hairstyles some cute,some …well as moms we want our little darlings to look there best at all times. and we tend to look at others for inspiration. But, every head of hair is different.I think the BIGGEST mistakes we make is being impatient and trying to “throw a kiddie perm” in it. thinking that is going to make things better. It’s not.Please know that those are regular relaxers with a child with spiral curls on the box.Don’t do it,because a lot of times it is the beginning of the end for your child’s hair. Instead use these tips ~ Be patient  use good utensils like a wide tooth comb, detangling spray bottle,moisturizer.

~Don’t opt for the cheap products on the shelves. Invest in natural and organic products .Sweet nature by Eddie is great, and so is Shea Moisture products.

You WILL see a difference in there hair.

~Moisturize!!!!!!!! not oil but a cream based moisturizer made of natural ingredients. I actually shellac my girls hair with it, especially the ends.

~Opt for protective styles such as braids,and two strand twist, and hold off on the press and curls for special occasions.

~ What you put in your body does make a difference. eating right, vitamins, and water is a great start!

I’ll eventually post pics of her progress that I have taken over the years. I do know there are some different circumstances,but give your girls a good head start and be conscious with what you do with there hair.

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Showing True patience

I know I see it ALL the time!!!!!A potential client see’s a stylist’ work on some form of advertisement whether it be a card,website,Flier, or even a referral.The work looks great,they come highly recommended and the potential client is EXCITED!! Now from a stylist perspective this is what we see (sometimes) an impatient client. I have seen SOME clients come in with unrealistic expectations, and expecting IMMEDIATE results .which in some cases can definitely be done.But I’m talking about the people that truly need repair work and is adamant in saying what they are not going to do. Sounds familiar? Well ,you have every right to do this,its your money, and your time. But …….expect limited results(sorry).

Let me give you an example,the front of your hair is broke off lets say from a weave(hypothetical) or constant pressing(shrugging shoulders)it measures 1 1/2 inches,the rest of your hair measures about 5 inches with a couple of 3 inch patches in the middle.The BEST result would be to get it cut, but you say” I don’t want to cut my hair right now or can you just add a couple of pieces in the front”………..blank stare with cow mowing in the background while tumbleweed rolls by…….big sigh..truthfully you probably wont like the results.Sure there are some stylists that will spritz,quickweave,and shalac that hair into  a one day style (kudos to those types of hair artist) but let’s work on long term results!!

I have a client who came to me as a referral, hair was stressed out, have been on meds for YEARS.So a lot of repair work was needed. She faithfully came every other week,and I’m a pretty honest person, her hair looked mediocre at best(I’m serious) but she kept coming and I kept caring for her hair. I’m SO serious but at the ninth month ****Breakthrough****her hair starting growing rapidly,it no longer was dull and lifeless.She said her hair hadn’t looked like that since she was in her twenties( she was a long way from that age ).But  consistency  was the key.1.She kept coming.2.she kept heat OUT of her hair.3. She trusted her stylist and was patient.Her words,”IT didn’t take a short amount of time to do this to my hair,so It wouldn’t take a short amount of time to repair it!” Words of Wisdom!!

OIL or Moisturizer?

What is the difference between oil and moisturizer? There is a BIG difference, The best way I can describe it is to think when you get out of a bath or shower,you dry off and your skin is tight feeling.Now if you put oil (let’s say baby oil” on your skin,It pretty much “sits” on there and gives it a high gloss shine. But,if you put lotion,which is moisture based,your skin is instantly re leaved of that dry tight feeling. Well,that’s exactly what  happens with your hair,moisture is the KEY to dry hair. Two major concerns/questions that I get from clients is “will it revert my hair(press) and when I use it it’s dry by the end of the day. Let’s address these concerns,If you have natural hair and is worried about a water based product reverting your hair,I would suggest using  less than a dime size and putting it on at night prior to wrapping your hair and even putting it in prior to blowing drying and flat ironing.If you are concerned that the moisturizer you have been using “pink stuff” doesn’t do much of anything. You may want to change products.Unfortunately there are MANY misleading products out there,that do not do anything,and they contain ingredients that are designed to dry it back out. I myself prefer natural products that do not contain mineral oil, sulfate,or parabens. It does make a BIG difference in your hair and with natural ingredients,the moisture will actually LOCK in the hair shaft and you wont have to moisturize but every few days .

Now please understand that I DO NOT count out oil. My favorite hair oils are extra virgin olive oil,Argon oil,jojoba oil,coconut oil,rosemary oil and morrocan oil. Olive oil is heavier but its a healing oil,Argon and Morrocan oils are my favorites to use in the salon because they are super light weight,you don’t need to use much and it provides softness, healthy (not artificial shine),and leaves your hair with body and bounce.Jojoba,rosemary,and coconut oils I love to use on my little girls hair. they smell great and a good idea to have around in your beauty basket.

Great tip of the day- mix  less than a dime size of your favorite oil and another half dime size of your favorite “NATURAL” moisturizer and you are on the road to great ,soft,manageable healthy hair!

Why a stylist “should” say NO!!!

I was talking to my fellow stylist , and we were discussing how clients resist hearing the word”no”. Well, here is a breakdown of why a stylist SHOULD say NO. I am honestly into healthy hair,your hair. I consider myself more of a longtime stylist, meaning, I consult,transition,map out,discuss,care for,transform,and maintain your hair.So, on your first appoinment we are NOT doing relaxer,tri-Color, with two tracks on the side.What?? No!!! I don’t do color on a new client because I have to analyze your hair, and how you will manage it. If it’s already in a damaged state , I can’t and you shouldn’t! Also, color is big change therefor I like to do things in stages (sometimes),and even though the process is longer the results will be better in the end and your hair healthier.Now, I have to admit, in my earlier years I had to learn to say no.As  stylist we try to appease clients, and build,but the reality is you are going to lose them anyway by doing something you knew in your spirit NOT to do.When you do do it and there hair is damaged, guess whats going to be said…”girl she took my hair out,she doesn’t know what she is doing”.

Prime example Micheal Jackson’s doctor..He chose to supply the “KING OF POP” with deadly medication,he knew the risk but he wanted the money and the status of being Micheal Jackson personal doctor…Now look at what happened.He lost him anyway……(extreme example,but do you get the point)

Communicate with your stylist!!!

I know it can be frustrating when things change. More than often when I get new clients,no soon after they sit in my seat,instead of telling me all that they are looking for they complain about all there last stylist did,or worse all the last few stylist did. BIG TURN OFF!!! Let me tell you why,#1 if you do this to them,you’ll do it to me.Plain,simple,period and THE truth dot com!!! Well, just know I dont approve such behavior . #2 I have a VERY good memory and there are going to be key words that are going to expose the truth. Plus, the first thing I’m going to ask you is did you let your stylist know? more than often not..I’ll give you an example.There was a time when I was having THE HARDEST time finding an assistant. The reality is my clientele was too big to NOT have one,but it was getting discouraging for myself and my clients. At one point a particular assistant was just not working out, and I was getting complaints galore!! Of course I was trying to get things together,and apologetically keep together ALL that I had built so far.But had my clients (mainly the ones thats been with me forever)not kept me update with the poor job my assistants were doing,I would not have known to make appropriate adjustments. The reality is I’m paying someone to do a job,and you are paying for a service,need I say more?? So, when people leave there stylist because of an assistant,communicate with your stylist your issues.

Another thing I see often is clients that ABSOLUTELY truly love how there stylist do there hair,but for some reason or another they just choose to try someone else,whether its because that stylist relocated, or the client did,or no reason at all. But, then they expect the new stylist to do things exactly how the other stylist did it. THING IS, every stylist has there own technique….(crickets)that’s all.And its not fair to impose other peoples technique’s on others.

Bottom line if you love how your hair looks and feels when you leave the chair,well,build a rapport with the stylist,keep communication open about your concerns .Client and stylist relationships are just that!! A RELATIONSHIP!!!

Why I decided to continue

For the past few years my life has been in a whirlwind. I love,love,love my website and get MANY visitors and even opportunities.But, to be frank I haven’t updated any information in years. Besides my busy personal life,owning a business,etc,etc. I was getting discouraged! I really was, I dont want to sound bitter or mean but alot of times I get discouraged with black woman and there hair. I DO!! because I know alot of woman SAY they want healthy hair, but they DO NOT want to change there habits, PLAIN,SIMPLE,PERIOD DOT COM!!!One thing is I am passionate about hair because there were no wearing weaves growing up.So you had to learn to deal with YOUR HAIR!!! And it amazes me when woman come in expecting miraculous results but dont understand not curling your hair everyday.(blank confusing stare) or you lie about it, and say NO I barely curl my hair.Please know that stylist can tell. We are looking at your hair from a different angle,and we see the truth from our angle.( I am stepping away from the podium and sitting down next to you eye to eye in a softer tone).Let me introduce myself , I’m Kelli.I LOVE hair, this is my passion,I truly want woman to not only be educated about their hair,but EMBRACE it.Embrace what would make you feel wonderful and give you that extra swagg in your walk. Lets talk about it!! Lets be honest!! I loved seeing a woman revamped. I’m not saying you cant get a weave, or what not,but True Health starts within. Have you ever seen somebody where they were working THAT look.THAT look wasnt working them.They had an extra umph in there step. Its because the are embracing their own look.THEY MADE A DECISION!! I want every woman and girl that steps out of my chair to have that. NO I’m not everybody’s stylist, I’m not confessing that.But I want to be a stylist that my clients  love coming to,and is pleased with the results. That keeps an open mind,where we can be honest with each other and have a long term professional relationship. Ill tell you a small secret ( if you mention this to me Ill look at you with a blank stare,its not up for discussion) but since I had my last couple of babies ,my body has changed and I am NOT embracing my thick girl thirties.and I have tried, read up on,and have done EVERYTHING to reinvent losing weight,that is everything but doing the right thing like eating right and exercising.it’s that instant gratification that I want, and I can get it but it wont be long term,and thats reality!! So as long as I keep skimming the bottom line true articles to read about what I can buy to lose 30 lbs in 2 days. well,Ill continue to get what I have gotten,nowhere and time lost and money spent on nothingness.Is that you with your hair???? Are you reading every hair blog,every Essence article but still doing everything wrong? Well,I am compassionate but the truth is the truth and there is no way around it,Let’s start making new decisions…and see new results…

That’s too bad that people flock to the negative!!

Ok, So I decided that I wouldn’t touch basis on this issue, because people can be SOOO defensive and walk in such a spirit of offense.And I want NO parts of it!!!! But, I have a passion for healthy hair, I truly do!! I decided a couple years ago to not log into different hair forums and sites, because as a professional stylist,we get HAMMERED!!! OMG!!(all the post are soo negative) granted yes, so many people have had BAD experiences with their hair,and even with stylist and salons. Before I began my website about 5+ years,and years before that I totally did not understand why I was seeing a heavy rotation of new clients with broken,unhealthy hair.I actually prayed about it, and asked God to help me understand this epidemic and even prayed that I would cross paths with people who were praying for a stylist such as myself.God is faithful!  As the forums have expanded including Youtube,facebook I have noticed (this week to be exact) extensive convo’s about the natural and/or DIY’ers and the lack of unity in those communities.Gosh!! well,please believe me this is not everyone. Actually there are quite a few stylist and salons NATIONWIDE that embrace natural hair,natural products,and professional expeditious service.No I’m not a naturalist stylist. But, I LOVE our NATURAL TEXTURE,I embrace it and encourage anyone who wants to leave all chemicals alone.I AGREE. and I am very concious of the ingredients that are in these products and see the damage it has done to our hair and being passed down to our daughters and granddaughters.In fact Motowngirl.com is a childhood friend of mine.and we use to be soo in to our hair,years and years later when we crossed paths again as adults.It was no surprise to either of us what direction we both went in. and we were brought together again full circle.I actually learned alot on her website,as a stylist and I can pass info forward to my clients. As a professional I totally approve of her site. So,No every professional should not be put in a BOX.Yes, thats too bad that soo many people do not trust stylist.I am glad that some people have found out what works for them in there own bathroom.But NO I have not lost any business, I dont speak ill-will of anyone.Do what works for you. I have seen lots of people who are doing a great job mixing there own products, and keeping there hair quite healthy.I wish you the best,But don’t always flock to the negative,if your season is up at the salon.IT’s O.K.!